These cookies are not only beneficial for lactation support, but they also taste YUMMY! This is a great To-Do item for grandparents and/or friends to make for you.
Okay Mamas! This is a list, that I compiled before and revised after both of the boy’s births, of things I found I needed to have and/or was very thankful to have on hand. I’m constantly adding and changing things and I’m sure you will find items on here to add, change and/or delete. I’ve listed products/names that I’ve found are “family favorites.” We’re big all-natural “crunchy” fans, so I hope it comes in handy and helps you feel prepared for your precious little one’s arrival.
Satya -Truthfulness: Can we see the truth of our child in front of us, and of our own mother-self, without attachment, ego, or pride? Can we be truthful about our needs as mothers?
Being honest with others requires first that we are honest with ourselves. In the quiet (or not so quiet) space of our homes, we probably have an easier time facing down the truth of where we're at physically, mentally and emotionally with ourselves and our family. And for many of us, it's an exhausted road of tantrums, crying (for littles and us) and conversations crying out to be shared with your partner. We want to feel NORMAL and be reminded that this is part of motherhood that we all go through, ups and downs. Let's face it though, in a crowded room of family, friends or even other mommies, we're probably the worst at sharing the REAL truth of where are needs are at. We too often try to candy-coat our truth with practiced smiles and stories of all the super mom accomplishments we've completed or wish we had. The truth is that the opposite reaction is felt for many - regret, guilt, exhaustion. Why do we feel the need to close doors when really we should be spilling the hard and beautiful truth to those around us? I believe it all comes back to the loss of our once coveted VILLAGE. Where mamas, dads, sisters, grandmothers, daughters and sons shared all of life's joys and defeats and witnessed the healing of the support from others. I digress, more on Villages in a later rant perhaps.
Satya and seeing our own truthfulness. We can start to understand, share and maybe even rethink parenting obstacles by seeing the truth of what they are - not what society or the random advice-giving person at the grocery store thinks they should be. They are the raw truth of life - the raw emotion of a 2-year old trying to figure out boundaries and limits by screaming and hitting, while yearning for guidance and compassion. The up all night with a crying or hungry baby who is growing faster than you want and needs you to help them understand it. The loss of a former life of freedom to the constant feeling of being needed by everyone around you all the time, and your quiet scream to be held and listened to. The quiet moment when everyone has decided that today nap time is on the schedule, and you have an hour of "me" time and a hundred things to cram in to it. These are all raw truths - and they are all powerful when we stop to see the strength they require from us but also bestow on to us. Take a moment in the coming days to stop and really look and listen to your baby/toddler/partner and allow yourself to feel the raw truthfulness of who they are, what they need, and where they are going. The truth is that this is the hardest endeavor you will ever find yourself in - allow your satya to be there for your children, your partner, your friends, those mommies you don't even know - then swing it right on back to yourself...Rock on Beautiful Mamas, you are Amazing!
"Our worst fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our Light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?” Actually, who are you not to be...There is nothing enlightening about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God/the Divine within us. It is not in just some of us. It is in everyone and as we let our own light shine we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear our presence automatically liberates others."~ Marianne Williamson
I want to consider the natural Yogic quality of motherhood as it pertains to the Yamas and Niyamas. Yamas being the moral observances; our guiding principles for how we deal with others. Niyamas being our personal observances; the principles of how we deal with ourselves. It's intriguing to stop and take a look at how many of these qualities are a natural outpouring of the postnatal period, and how we can use our yoga practice, especially postnatal classes, to enhance the first year of mothering.
The Yamas: Part One
Ahimsa - Nonviolence: How can we be more kind to ourselves? Build patience with our children? Partners? And most importantly let go of perfectionism.
We must start by taking care of "us" and providing the self-love to heal and create peacefulness in ourselves. This is done by providing time during our busy days for meaningful activities such as meditation, journal writing, and postnatal practices. When we constantly allow ourselves to be consumed by the stress and anxiety that parenting brings, we bring that into our relationships with our children and spouses. Creating, finding, and providing ourselves with "me time" during the day/week, allows us to channel our energies into a positive place where we can practice, meditate and exercise our minds and bodies. For after we center and refocus personally, can we address the paint and permanent marker smeared across the living room walls. And find breath and patience during the 4th, 5th, 6th time the baby wakes at night. Our commitment to time for personal healing, recovery, strengthening and mental focus allows us to communicate and share with our partners as well. After a night of little to no sleep and a full day of excessive toddler energies and rousing tantrums, it can be easy to start in on your partner the moment they walk in the door. Some private space and time can be the key to mental clarity and a new-found excitement when revisiting the day's chaotic events. Most importantly it is time to put down the how-to, help books and unplug from the myriad of Facebook mom groups, to allow yourself a candid look at how your children are thriving - because of you and your good work. No it/you will never be perfect, but in that knowledge comes compassion, acceptance and love for the difficult and selfless job of motherhood. Being able to understand and walk next to your child during emotional upsets, looking into your partners eyes and having them know how best to support you, and finishing your bedtime routine by spending a few moments in front of the mirror praising yourself and all your efforts - I believe that is ahimsa, that is motherhood!
“Ahimsa means not to injure any creature by thought, word or deed.
True ahimsa should mean a complete freedom from ill- will and anger and hate and an overflowing love for all.
Ahimsa is the attribute of the soul and therefore to be practiced by everybody in all the affairs of life.” ~Mahatma Gandhi